To be honest, we are all in need of some healing. Some need it more than others, but on some level we need to heal from LIFE.
How do we know what needs to be healed?
Pay attention to what triggers you. What makes you react differently than normal? These are triggers. They can be as small as living more on the egotistical side or not allowing your voice to be heard. Notice what brings jealousy, envy, hate, then flip that around and see why. Notice these behaviors and piece together the meaning behind it.
Find the why.
When we ask why, we are able to get to the root cause of the hurt. More likely than not it was from childhood or a pas relationship. These are when we develop our scars. Evaluate those times and look at it through a lens that is not bias. Forgive, both you and the others that were involved. Find acceptance in the situation. Notice the problem, notice the behavior, accept, then find it in yourself to make the change.
How do the wounds lead to suffering?
When we react without evaluating the situation, our actions will normally promote suffering. Always breathe, take in what is happening and rationally view the situation without jumping the gun and reacting. A lot of times we will act out of anger or jealousy, which brings suffering. When we react, we act then regret the way we handled it. This is the real yoga! We must learn to master our behavior and think before we act. We must always redirect and come from a place of love more so than anything else. This doesn’t come easy, but it is possible. It takes a lot of redirecting and a lot of trying and staying present, but it is so worth it.
Do you know what suffering feels like? Looks like? It comes in all forms. We must fully come to understanding of what our weaknesses are, and what causes us to experience suffering. Be aware of personal behaviors that lead to this, then constantly work to be better. Do the inner work to make moves in the areas and lead yourself away from behaviors that lead to any kind of suffering. Redirect every time you start to take on old patterns.
Finally, the healing.
Once you are able to see the behaviors, the outcome of the behaviors, and result of suffering behind the actions, that is where we can get down to the healing. There is a lot that goes into healing, but it is pretty much forgiving and living with an open heart. Forgive yourself, even though its hard. Accept, even though you know you could do better. Then, everyday show up to being better and living up to the values you know that you are capable of.