Healing Through Forgiveness

I had an amazing conversation the other night with someone and it brought me to the topic of forgiveness and my personal journey with it. I have had a lot of instances where I’ve had to look at a situation and accept it, even though its not ideal.

I was raised LDS and I remember reading The Miracle of Forgiveness by Spencer W. Kimball. This book touched my heart. My biggest takeaway was how it helped me to recognize that I needed to forgive someone. Anything that gains a negative reaction out of us is in need of forgiveness. This hit home for me big time! I hadn’t realized how hurt I would get because of the world I was living in and other’s choices.

Don’t Take Things Personally

When I found spirituality, I did a lot of internal work to help me with my healing process. Along this journey I started to understand myself and who I was. I learned how sensitive I was to everything around me, I also took everything personally. I had to understand that people do things because they want to, because of their personal journey. Why am I taking everything personally when everyone is also suffering around me and reacting to life in the best way possible?

We are all on the same journey and living a life here on Earth. We are all learning along the way and all of us have gone through ups and downs, so why am I better than everyone? I’m not. I expect others to forgive me and give me the benefit of the doubt, but why I am not doing the same in return? Well that was because I had a lot of healing I had to do.

Understanding Forgiveness

To me forgiveness is unconditional love and a form of acceptance, these obviously go hand in hand. I remember instances where my Mother and I didn’t have the best relationship, and I was upset with what she was doing. At the end of the day, is it my decision to choose what is best for her? No. At some point we have to see that others are on their journey, just like us. We must assume positive intent with all situations because we are not these people. As I changed my perspective on the situation I fell in love with my mother and most importantly, who she is internally. That bond will not break.

Change Your Perspective

As I lived with the perspective change, I was able to go through life with a more open heart. Accepting those around me because I was finding beauty in the souls of others, and the journeys they were on. Hurt doesn’t become hurt anymore, it comes an emotion that is space. There is love in each and every situation, we just need to look for it.

When we start to live in the light, it’s easier to gravitate towards the light. Vibration is another topic I will discuss on the blog at a later time, but vibration dwells in like vibrations. Choose to live in a life full of love and it’ll be easy to be happy, and vice versa. Your vibration creates your thoughts, your thoughts create your actions, your actions create your life… so choose live in a life filled with loving thoughts.