We all know the feeling of fear, right? It’s the moment when we experience anxiety, worry, discontentment. Our heart races a mile a minute and some of us even feel like crying. Fear is the feeling that we don’t want to experiencel, but it is needed. To live up to our fullest potential we must enter that trajectory of success and fulfillment, none of this is possible we don’t face our fears.
Living Within Lines
I have always been hard on myself. I would push myself to always show up better than the day prior, even in situations I didn’t care about. My world was solemnly based on the world around me and if I was doing a good enough job at pleasing others. Then one day, I realized that no matter what I do, people are going to complain. The world will never be happy at one given time. If I make someone happy then I am upsetting another. Why even beat myself up and worry about others when they aren’t worried about how I feel and allowing me to be self fulfilled?
Every relationship that I had with someone, I would hide things because I felt that it wasn’t what they wanted to hear. I was people pleasing to the best of my abilities. It all hit the fan when I realized that I wasn’t happy. I was depleted because my glass wasn’t full. My worries went to everyone else but me. I made a quick, sharp u-turn and pretty much told everyone to like it or leave it.
Living for Yourself
Most of the time we don’t live up to our full potential because we are either worried of the outcome, or we are worried about the way that others may react or view us. Mine has always been the second. When I started living for myself, it became easier by the day. I had to adopt a life and literally find myself because I was so off track. Slowly, but surely, it all came back and better than it was before.
Befriend Fear
Get to know what fear feels like. Go after it and become friends with it. Could you imagine what life would be like if we didn’t have a comfort zone? Life would always be lived to the fullest extent. We would feel full, established, in alignment. Others and their opinions wouldn’t matter and most importantly, we wouldn’t get in our own way.
The way I look at fear is this, if you aren’t experiencing fear then you aren’t living hard enough. Every day we need to be pushing towards something. Whether that something is a yoga pose, sitting with someone random at a coffee shop, texting someone you haven’t talked to in years, whatever it is… do it to the fullest.
Don’t Get in Your Own Way
Each and every one of us will get in our own way, mostly on a subconscious level. Just don’t do it. Train yourself to live outside of the comfort zone. Living outside of the lines becomes more comfortable when you do it, so just make it happen! Each and every day, pick one thing that you are going to do. No matter how small that thing may be, do it. See what it feels like to experience and conquer the fear you have built inside. Over time you will see how these fears are holding you back. Don’t let yourself be the reason you aren’t going after your dreams.
This is a new beginning, a new year, hello 2019! Start this year with a new mindset, a new outlook on life. Live life on the edge and be able to say that you did everything you could to live your best life.
